Oct22

The Checklist

by KaziGrrl on 2011/10/22 at 00:00
Posted In: Reflections

Shortly after starting my blog, I posted a checklist that I had found in a bit of erotic fiction and used as a jumping off point, more for reference than anything else, to provide a direction at the beginning of my journey into kink.  The one I posted was blank, although I did have one that I had completed and later shared with my Rider as we compared notes along the way (he posted his here).

So now it’s been a year since I started the journey and I thought it would be a fun exercise to see what has happened with the checklist.  It certainly feels that several things have changed along the way; I’ve gained a fair bit of experience and learnt to love some things I thought I never would.  I’ve also refined my tastes somewhat.

So here’s where I was back in January of this year.  Most of the experience I cite was from stuff that had happened years before or as part of life, not necessarily all kink-related. CPO means I would do it with a committed partner only.

BONDAGE

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Blindfolds

x

 Like it a lot
Bondage (light)

x

 Like it a lot
Bondage (heavy) Willing
Bondage (multi-day) Soft limit
Bondage (public, under clothing) Willing
Leather restraints Willing
Chains Willing
Ropes Willing
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage Willing
Rope body harness Willing
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Willing
Harnesses (leather) Willing
Harnesses (rope) Willing
Cuffs (leather) Willing
Cuffs (metal) Willing
Manacles & Irons Willing
Gags (cloth) Hard limit
Gags (rubber) Hard limit
Gags (tape) Hard limit
Gags (phallic) Hard limit
Gags (ring) Hard limit
Mouth bits Hard limit
Full head hoods Hard limit
Mummification/saran wrapping Won’t Object
Strait jackets Won’t Object
Sleepsacks Won’t Object
Spreader bars Willing

CONFINEMENT/SUSPENSION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Cages (locked inside of) Willing
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)

x

 Willing
Stocks Soft limit
Suspension (upright) Willing
Suspension (horizontal) Willing
Suspension (inverted) Soft limit

IMPACT/PERCUSSION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Spanking Willing
Flogging Willing
Single-tail whips Won’t Object
Canes Soft limit
Belts Won’t Object
Leather straps Won’t Object
Riding crops Won’t Object
Hairbrushes Won’t Object
Wooden paddles Won’t Object
Breast slapping Soft limit
Breast whipping Soft limit
Pussy/cock whipping Soft limit
Slapping/Punching (back, buttocks, chest) Soft limit
Strapping (full body beating) Soft limit
Hair pulling Willing
Face slapping Hard limit

SEXUAL ACTIVITY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Vaginal sex

x

 Willing

x
Oral sex

x

 Willing

x
Swallowing semen

x

 Willing

x
Hand jobs (giving)

x

 Willing

x
Hand jobs (receiving)

x

 Willing

x
Anal sex Willing

x
Anal plugs (small)

x

 Willing
Anal plugs (large) Willing
Anal plug (public, under clothes) Willing
Anal beads Willing
Figging/radishing Won’t Object

x
Vaginal dildo

x

 Willing
Vibrator on genitals

x

 Willing
Dilation Soft limit
Masturbation

x

 Willing
Fisting (vaginal) Won’t Object

x
Fisting (anal) Won’t Object

x
Speculums (vaginal)

x

 Won’t Object
Speculums (anal) Soft limit

x
Oral/anal play (rimming) Won’t object

x
Double penetration (oral and vaginal)  fantasy :)
Double penetration (oral and anal)  fantasy :)
Double penetration (vaginal and anal)  fantasy :)
Triple penetration  fantasy :)
Forced homosexuality  N/A
Forced masturbation Willing
Phone sex (serving Dom) Willing
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) Hard limit
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) Willing
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) Willing
Strap-on-dildos (wearing) Willing
Group Sex

x

 Willing
Outdoor sex

x

 Willing
Orgasm control Willing
Sexual deprivation (short term)

x

 Willing
Sexual deprivation (long term)

x

 Willing
Swapping (with one other couple)

x

 Hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples) Hard limit
Threesomes (two male, one female)

x

 Won’t Object
Threesomes (one male, two females)

x

 Won’t Object

SENSATION PLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Abrasion Won’t Object
Scratching Willing
Being bitten Won’t Object
Tickling

x

 Willing
Kissing

x

 Willing
Violet wand Willing
Tens units

x

 Willing
Zapping (e.g. electric fly swatter) Won’t Object
Ice cubes

x

 Willing
Wax Play Willing
Cupping Willing
Fire cupping Won’t Object
Fire play Won’t Object
Drumming Willing
Knife Play Willing
Clothespins Hard limit
Sensory deprivation

x

 Willing
Hot oils (on genitals) Willing

CUTTING/PIERCING/BODY MODIFICATION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Cutting

x

 Willing
Branding Soft Limit
Scarification Soft limit
Tattooing Hard Limit
Injections

x

 Hard Limit
Piercing (temporary, play pierce) Won’t Object
Piercing (permanent)

x

 Willing
Catheterization

x

 Soft limit

BREATH PLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Asphyxiation Hard limit
Breath control Hard limit
Choking Hard limit

HUMILIATION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Teasing

x

 Hard limit
Humiliation (private) Hard limit
Humiliation (public)

x

 Hard limit
Verbal humiliation

x

 Hard limit
Being spit on Hard limit
Washing mouth out with soap Soft limit
Objectification (art, furniture…) Won’t Object
Shaving (body hair)

x

 Willing
Shaving (head hair) Soft limit
Slutty clothing (private) Willing
Slutty clothing (public) Soft limit
Outdoor scenes Hard limit
Public exposure Hard limit

BODY-PART TORTURE

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Cock and Ball torture (male)
Gates of Hell (male)
Ball stretchers
Ball crushers
Riding the “horse” (crotch torture)
Nipple clips Hard limit
Nipple weights Soft limit
Nipple suction cups Soft limit
Clit clips Hard limit

FETISHES

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Feet Won’t Object
Boots Won’t Object
High heels Soft limit
Chastity devices Won’t Object
Corsets Won’t Object
Masks Won’t Object
Cross-dressing

x

 Willing
Gender-bending

x

 Willing
Gas masks Soft limit
Feathers Willing
Fabrics Willing
Lingerie

x

 Willing
Lace Willing
Nylon Willing
Silk Willing
Leather clothing

x

 Willing
Rubber/latex/PVC clothing Won’t object
Spandex clothing Willing
Panties Willing
Pantyhose Willing
Uniforms Willing
Pregnancy Hard limit
Lactation Hard limit
Food Hard limit

GENERAL ROLEPLAYING

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Fear play Won’t Object
Fantasy abandonment Won’t Object
Kidnapping Won’t Object
Interrogation Won’t Object
Sleep deprivation Won’t Object
Rape Won’t Object
Gang bang Soft limit
Whore play Won’t Object
Initiation rites Won’t Object
Religious scenes Soft limit
Medical scenes Won’t Object
Prison scenes Won’t Object
Schoolroom scenes Won’t Object
Fantasy scenarios (pirates, aliens, vampires, bikers…) Won’t Object
Wrestling Won’t Object
Hypnotism

x

 Won’t Object
Mind Control Soft limit
Feminization Won’t Object

SERVICE AND BEHAVIOUR

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Following orders Willing
Forced servitude Willing
Restrictive rules on behaviour Willing
Eye contact restrictions Willing
Speech restrictions (when, what, to whom) Willing
Washroom restrictions Willing
Kneeling Willing
Crawling Willing
Begging Willing
Standing in corner Willing
Learned postures Willing
Rituals Willing
Being given a new name Willing
Lectures for misbehaviour Willing
Physical examinations Willing
Forced exercise Willing
Forced dressing Willing
Having clothing chosen for you Willing
Having food chosen for you Soft limit
Being fed Willing
Wearing symbolic jewellery Willing
Collars (worn in private) Willing
Collars (worn in public) Willing
Leashes Won’t Object
Chauffeuring Willing
Housework (doing) Willing
Manicures (giving) Willing
Massage (giving) Willing
Massage (receiving) Willing
Licking (non-sexual) Willing
Serving Willing
Serving as a maid Willing
Serving as waitress/waiter Willing
Serving other doms (supervised) Hard limit
Serving other doms (unsupervised) Hard limit
Including others Willing
Competitions (with other Subs) Willing
Harems (serving w/other subs) Hard limit
Supplying new partners for Dom Hard limit
Given away to another Dom (for play) Hard limit
Given away to another Dom (for training) Hard limit
Given away to another Dom (permanent) Hard limit
Consensual non-consent Willing

VOYEURISM/EXHIBITIONISM

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Forced nudity (private)

x

 Willing
Forced nudity (around others) Soft limit
Exhibitionism (friends) Soft limit
Exhibitionism (strangers) Won’t Object
Modelling for erotic photos Won’t Object
Video (watching others) Willing
Video (recordings of you) Won’t Object
Voyeurism (watching others)

x

 Willing
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) Hard limit

ANIMAL ROLEPLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Puppy play Won’t Object
Pony play Won’t Object
Bestiality Soft limit

AGE ROLEPLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Age play

x

 Likes it a lot
Infantilism (Adult baby, diaper lover) Hard limit

BODILY FLUIDS AND FUNCTIONS

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Watersports/golden showers Hard limit
Swallowing urine Hard limit
Enemas Hard limit
Brown showers (scat) Hard limit
Serving as toilet Hard limit
Blood Hard limit
Menstruation

x

 Soft limit

 

And now I’ll show you the updated list.  I changed the level of interest markers to High, Medium, and Low and of course there are quite a few changes throughout the checklist, reflecting the experience I’ve gained this past year.  I think it would be interesting to post this as an annual thing to compare past lists with as a measure of change and growth!

 

BONDAGE

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Blindfolds

x

 High
Bondage (light)

x

 High
Bondage (heavy) High
Bondage (multi-day)

x

 High
Bondage (public, under clothing)

x

 High
Leather restraints High
Chains High
Ropes

x

 High
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage

x

 High
Rope body harness

x

 High
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Medium
Harnesses (leather) Medium
Harnesses (rope)

x

 High
Cuffs (leather) High
Cuffs (metal)

x

 High
Manacles & Irons Medium
Gags (cloth) Hard limit
Gags (rubber) Hard limit
Gags (tape) Hard limit
Gags (phallic) Hard limit
Gags (ring) Hard limit
Mouth bits Hard limit
Full head hoods Hard limit
Mummification/saran wrapping Low
Strait jackets Medium
Sleepsacks Low
Spreader bars Medium

CONFINEMENT/SUSPENSION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Cages (locked inside of) Medium
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)

x

 Medium
Stocks Soft limit
Suspension (upright) Medium
Suspension (horizontal) High
Suspension (inverted) Soft limit

IMPACT/PERCUSSION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Spanking

x

 High
Flogging

x

 High
Single-tail whips Medium
Canes Medium
Belts Low
Leather straps Medium
Riding crops

x

 High
Hairbrushes

x

 High
Wooden paddles

x

 High
Breast slapping

x

 Low
Breast whipping Soft limit
Pussy/cock whipping Medium
Slapping/Punching (back, buttocks, chest) Soft limit
Strapping (full body beating) Soft limit
Hair pulling Medium
Face slapping Hard limit

SEXUAL ACTIVITY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Vaginal sex

x

 High
Oral sex

x

 High
Swallowing semen

x

 High
Hand jobs (giving)

x

 High
Hand jobs (receiving)

x

 High
Anal sex Low

x
Anal plugs (small)

x

 High
Anal plugs (large) Low
Anal plug (public, under clothes)

x

 High
Anal beads

x

 High
Figging/radishing

x

 High
Vaginal dildo

x

 High
Vibrator on genitals

x

 High
Dilation Soft limit
Masturbation

x

 High
Fisting (vaginal) Low

x
Fisting (anal) Soft limit

x
Speculums (vaginal)

x

 Low
Speculums (anal) Soft limit

x
Oral/anal play (rimming) Low

x
Double penetration (oral and vaginal)  fantasy :)
Double penetration (oral and anal)  fantasy :)
Double penetration (vaginal and anal)  fantasy :)
Triple penetration  fantasy :)
Forced homosexuality  N/A
Forced masturbation Medium
Phone sex (serving Dom) Medium
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) Hard limit
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) Medium
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) Medium
Strap-on-dildos (wearing) Medium
Group Sex

x

 Medium
Outdoor sex

x

 Medium
Orgasm control Medium
Sexual deprivation (short term)

x

 Medium
Sexual deprivation (long term)

x

 Medium
Swapping (with one other couple)

x

 Hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples) Hard limit
Threesomes (two male, one female)

x

 Low
Threesomes (one male, two females)

x

 Low

SENSATION PLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Abrasion Low
Scratching

x

 High
Being bitten Medium
Tickling

x

 Medium
Kissing

x

 High
Violet wand High
Tens units

x

 High
Zapping (e.g. electric fly swatter) Low
Ice cubes

x

 High
Wax Play

x

 High
Cupping High
Fire cupping High
Fire play Medium
Drumming High
Knife Play

x

 Medium  self-play
Clothespins

x

 Medium
Sensory deprivation

x

 High
Hot oils (on genitals) High

CUTTING/PIERCING/BODY MODIFICATION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Cutting

x

 Medium  self-play
Branding Soft Limit
Scarification Soft limit
Tattooing Hard Limit
Injections

x

 Hard Limit
Piercing (temporary, play pierce) Low
Piercing (permanent)

x

 High  self-play
Catheterization

x

 Soft limit

BREATH PLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Asphyxiation Hard limit
Breath control Hard limit
Choking Hard limit

HUMILIATION

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Teasing

x

 Hard limit
Humiliation (private) Hard limit
Humiliation (public)

x

 Hard limit
Verbal humiliation

x

 Hard limit
Being spit on Hard limit
Washing mouth out with soap Soft limit
Objectification (art, furniture…) Low
Shaving (body hair)

x

 High
Shaving (head hair) Hard limit
Slutty clothing (private)

x

 High
Slutty clothing (public)

x

 Medium
Outdoor scenes Medium
Public exposure Hard limit

BODY-PART TORTURE

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Cock and Ball torture (male)
Gates of Hell (male)
Ball stretchers
Ball crushers
Riding the “horse” (crotch torture) Low
Nipple clips Hard limit
Nipple weights

x

 Medium
Nipple suction cups Soft limit
Clit clips

x

 Hard limit

FETISHES

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Feet

x

 Medium
Boots Low
High heels

x

 Soft limit
Chastity devices Low
Corsets Low
Masks Low
Cross-dressing

x

 High
Gender-bending

x

 High
Gas masks Soft limit
Feathers High
Fabrics High
Lingerie

x

 Medium
Lace Medium
Nylon Medium
Silk

x

 Medium
Leather clothing

x

 Medium
Rubber/latex/PVC clothing Low
Spandex clothing Medium
Panties Medium
Pantyhose Medium
Uniforms Medium
Pregnancy Hard limit
Lactation Hard limit
Food Hard limit

GENERAL ROLEPLAYING

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Fear play Medium
Fantasy abandonment Medium
Kidnapping Medium
Interrogation Medium
Sleep deprivation Low
Rape Medium
Gang bang Soft limit
Whore play Low
Initiation rites Low
Religious scenes Soft limit
Medical scenes Medium
Prison scenes Medium
Schoolroom scenes Medium
Fantasy scenarios (pirates, aliens, vampires, bikers…) Medium
Wrestling Medium
Hypnotism

x

 Low
Mind Control Soft limit
Feminization Low

SERVICE AND BEHAVIOUR

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Following orders

x

 High
Forced servitude Medium
Restrictive rules on behaviour High
Eye contact restrictions Medium
Speech restrictions (when, what, to whom) Medium
Washroom restrictions Hard limit
Kneeling Medium
Crawling Medium
Begging Medium
Standing in corner Medium
Learned postures Medium
Rituals Medium
Being given a new name Medium
Lectures for misbehaviour Medium
Physical examinations Medium
Forced exercise Medium
Forced dressing Medium
Having clothing chosen for you Medium
Having food chosen for you Soft limit
Being fed Medium
Wearing symbolic jewellery

x

 High
Collars (worn in private)

x

 Medium
Collars (worn in public) Medium
Leashes

x

 Low
Chauffeuring Low
Housework (doing) Medium
Manicures (giving) Medium
Massage (giving) High
Massage (receiving) High
Licking (non-sexual) Medium
Serving High
Serving as a maid Medium
Serving as waitress/waiter Medium
Serving other doms (supervised) Hard limit
Serving other doms (unsupervised) Hard limit
Including others Low
Competitions (with other Subs) Soft limit
Harems (serving w/other subs) Hard limit
Supplying new partners for Dom Hard limit
Given away to another Dom (for play) Hard limit
Given away to another Dom (for training) Hard limit
Given away to another Dom (permanent) Hard limit
Consensual non-consent Medium

VOYEURISM/EXHIBITIONISM

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Forced nudity (private)

x

 Medium
Forced nudity (around others) Soft limit
Exhibitionism (friends) Soft limit
Exhibitionism (strangers) Low
Modelling for erotic photos

x

 High
Video (watching others) Medium
Video (recordings of you) Low
Voyeurism (watching others)

x

 Medium
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) Hard limit

ANIMAL ROLEPLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Puppy play Hard limit
Pony play Hard limit
Bestiality Hard limit

AGE ROLEPLAY

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Age play

x

 High
Infantilism (Adult baby, diaper lover) Hard limit

BODILY FLUIDS AND FUNCTIONS

Activity

Exp.

Level of interest

CPO

Comments

Watersports/golden showers Hard limit
Swallowing urine Hard limit
Enemas Hard limit
Brown showers (scat) Hard limit
Serving as toilet Hard limit
Blood Hard limit
Menstruation

x

 N/A

 

Oh and if anyone would like a blank one to play with, just ask and I’d be happy to send it along!

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